I'm not perfect. I never will be and that's okay. In fact, it's one of the things I'm most proud of in my life. Not being perfect gives me room to grow, change and explore myself without feeling pressured or afraid to make mistakes. It gives me the opportunity to be honest with myself and others about the things I do like, dislike, want, need and love.
When I was a little girl my mom taught me that imperfection is perfection — it allows us to feel connected to one another in a way that makes us unique. Everyone has something they would change about themselves if they could. To me that's what makes us human -- and in my mind, beautiful. I'm far from perfect but I can accept the things about myself I would change and focus on all of the wonderful qualities, characteristics and quirks that make up who I am. These are a few things that make me, well... ME.
To start, here are some of the things I'm not perfect at: Being a mom, loving my mom body, not helping myself to a second, or third, cookie.
What is perfection anyway? This is something I learned from my mom a long time ago and even though it makes sense to me, sometimes it's hard to accept that we shouldn't be judged for being less than ideal. It's hard because society puts so much emphasis on the physical beauty and perfection of a person. The media only showcases one kind of body, one set of physical characteristics and in a way makes us feel ashamed about our own imperfections. At the very least, makes it nearly impossible to accept that someone like me can be beautiful, sexy, or successful.
Imperfection is everywhere -- in other people, places, things. Nature is often our best example. In all it's glory, it is always imperfect just as much as it's perfect in it's natural state. That perfect sunset is surrounded imperfectly sized clouds. The forest in all it's magnificence is filled with trees of varying shapes and sizes, and still maintains it's perfect forest vibe.
I'm not going to pretend that I don't look at my body and wish I was 15 pounds thinner or taller, or have a thigh gap, but the thing is, you can only change so much about your physical self and to do it without being happy inside makes no sense. So if my body doesn't look like a magazine spread or the bodies you see walking down the street, well that's okay. It doesn't mean I have little to no worth inside.
I'm imperfectly perfect in my own skin and that works for me just fine because I know who I am on the inside and what makes me tick and how silly it is for me to compare or compete with anyone else's beauty. I wouldn't be ME if I didn't have my curves and love handles because they are as much a part of who I am as my smile and laugh lines are.
Imperfection doesn't have to be scary either. It can also be rich with lessons for our lives and beautiful and interesting as well. Take a deep breath and look more carefully at the world. see how imperfections are all around us? it's okay. it means we are human. And, if anything, it should be celebrated!
I accept my flaws because they're true. My face, the fading scars on my body sustained in the past; the stretch marks of bearing children...all tell a story of my past. They tell my story. These flaws are the result of experiences I've had in life, whether physical or emotional. My scars mean I am capable of healing from a physical injury long ago, and of overcoming it to be stronger now.
Accepting my imperfections will never make me weak, it just makes me human. I am not perfect and that is a good thing. Being imperfect gives everyone room to grow, learn and experience new things about themselves. I've learned so much about myself because I choose to embrace life, and the imperfections along the way.
If YOU don't love yourself for who you are; how can you expect others to?
So instead of trying so hard to be someone else's idea of perfect, how about you look at your own imperfections and see how amazing they are? I dare you! The more we learn to appreciate the beauty in being human, flaws and all, the more amazing we become.
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